07 May Relationship Tips For The Vegan/Non-Vegan Couple
Being married to or dating a non-vegan when you’re a vegan can be difficult. Your partner’s choice of each meat and other animal products can be very frustrating for you. However, to have a successful relationship you’d both have to find a way to understand and appreciate each other away from the differences in food. Remember a relationship is more than food and even if you were both vegans would not automatically mean that your taste in food would be similar.
Here are some important tips that can help you have a healthy and happy relationship with your non-vegan partner.
1. Do not be judgmental.
Remember your choice to be vegan is personal and just because your point of view is different doesn’t mean you’re better than your partner. Being graceful with your partner might actually attract them to trying the vegan lifestyle. So instead of giving him/her a stinky eye during meal time or constantly berating them about the food they are eating, exercise grace. Enjoy your meal and allow them to enjoy theirs.
2. Be thankful for your partner’s acceptance.
The same way you are appreciating your partner’s choice to be non-vegan is the same way they are appreciating your choice of being vegan. So instead of judging, be thankful that your partner supports your choice and is willing to help you live your vegan life the best way you can. When they prepare a vegan meal for you remember to show appreciation. Be nice and prepare them a meal too or bring home their favourite snack.
3. Don’t try to change your partner.
There is a big difference between persuasion and pestering. As a vegan who understands why veganism is so beneficial to all, you might want your partner to turn vegan because you want the best for them but how you approach it will make a difference between pulling him/ her in and pushing him/her away. People don’t usually fall out because of what is said, it is usually because of how it is said. Being sensitive in how you communicate your opinions and feelings about the non-vegan lifestyle will make a big difference.
4. Focus on what you have in common.
There are many foods that are acceptable to both vegans and non-vegans so it is possible for you and your partner to share meals that you can both enjoy. For instance, you can both enjoy a good movie over homemade white potato chips or Vegan Junk Food. Look for foods that are acceptable to both of you and make a deliberate effort to incorporate them into your diet as much as possible. Most starches are acceptable to both vegans and non-vegans so start from here.
5. Agree to disagree.
The same way you have facts about the vegan lifestyle, your partner can probably tell you why the non-vegan option is better. To some degree, you have to agree that you cannot agree but choose to respect each others’ choices and love each other through the differences.